Unsolicited Advice Letter to Self

Dear self, I want to take this chance to tell you some advice I think you should hear. I know you’ve never been one for arbitrary new beginnings like January 1st, but I also know this New Year thing still works on you. Every single person in the calendared world has this chance to start fresh. I think it’s mostly … Read More

How My Sabbatical Changed My Life (All the Juicy Details)

I’m living out the nightmare I had when I was 10. When I was a kid, my biggest fear was to be shipped off to do Manual Labor on a Chinese farm, my back bent against the sun, having to use the local pig shed as my toilet. Where would an American fifth grader get this idea? When the piles … Read More

Thank You Note to an Enemy

Friends are nice, but enemies are the money. I have a little Thanksgiving tradition of writing a thank you letter to someone. Today I’d like to give a belated thanks to a recent ‘enemy,’ and share my “Gratitude System” for how to bring more gratitude into your life. (ps – the stopwatch read time for this email is 2 minutes … Read More

How is s/he loving you back?

A simple action framework that I use for career questions, dating, what I should do with my weekend, etc. I’ve recently been talking to a cool company about doing some work with them. They approached me with exciting news about their expansion, and they wooed me with phrases like “we don’t make job descriptions, we just connect to talented people … Read More

Third Chances

A friend, Frank, passed away suddenly, recently. He was healthy and successful, he was great with relationships. The standout thing about Frank’s life wasn’t that he died suddenly in his sleep with robust health and in youthful mid-age. The astonishing thing about Frank’s life was how much he managed to experience for himself and contribute for others in the tiny … Read More

The Secret Leak in My Life

There’s a special something that makes it hard for me to write to you some days. It’s the same thing that makes it hard not to burn toast, and it’s the same thing that sabotages your creativity when you need it most. I’m writing a draft, and I feel a sudden urge to stop and look at a different browser … Read More

How is it loving you back?

A simple action framework that I use for career questions, dating, what I should do with my weekend, etc. I’ve recently been talking to a cool company about doing some work with them. They approached me with exciting news about their expansion, and they wooed me with phrases like “we don’t make job descriptions, we just connect to talented people … Read More

My “Time-On” Sabbatical, or Where the Heck I’ve Been These Past 10 Months

“Aren’t you done relaxing yet?” a well-intentioned entrepreneur friend once asked me.

I was startled. For an overachiever plowing through life, taking time to be with myself and not have anything important to do was the most un-relaxing thing I could imagine.

In fact, it was excruciating.

Last fall, I left my position running business operations at a web startup in Austin to spend what I thought would be four months with myself, the person I’d somehow lost touch with over the years and had been awkwardly avoiding for most of 2012…

How to thank a mentor

A friend recently asked me, “How can I ever thank my mentor?” —– My simple 4-thing checklist of “giving back” 1. Listen with full attention God, it feels so good to be truly listened to. Most of us have only felt this a few times in our lives, and when it’s on… you never want to stop sharing yourself. People … Read More